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An African-American Guide to Ethical Non-Monogamy Workbook

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An African-American Guide To Ethical Non-Monogamy Workbook
Exercises & Tools for Navigating Non-Monogamy Through Radical Honesty, Emotional Awareness, and Authentic Communication

By Taylor K. Sparks

Paperback; 180 pages

This transformative workbook is the long-awaited companion to An African-American Guide to Ethical Non-Monogamy-the first book of its kind centering the experiences, challenges, and cultural realities of Black individuals exploring open relationships.

Created by erotic educator and ENM coach Taylor K. Sparks, this interactive guide is for anyone curious about or actively transitioning into ethical non-monogamy. Whether you're single, partnered, in a throuple or a quad, this workbook offers guided exercises, self-reflection prompts, and real-world tools to help you navigate the journey with clarity, confidence, and care.

While this workbook centers the lived experiences of African-Americans-including the historical, relational, and cultural influences that shape how we love-its tools and guidance are designed to support anyone ready to build healthier, more intentional relationships through ethical non-monogamy.

More than just a journal, this is your step-by-step roadmap to exploring your evolving relationship style while honoring your values, emotional needs, and cultural heritage.

Inside you'll find:

  • Prompts to explore your core values and relationship beliefs
  • Tools for emotional regulation, managing jealousy, and embracing your desires
  • Step-by-step guidance for setting boundaries and making collaborative agreements
  • Exercises to improve communication, deepen connection, and resolve conflict
  • Cultural reflections that examine how African-American history, family dynamics, and sexual stereotypes impact our relationship choices
  • A final chapter to map your ENM vision and reflect on how far you've come

Each chapter includes exercises for both individuals and those in partnered or polyamorous relationships-making this workbook a powerful companion no matter where you are in your journey.

Topics include:

  • What ethical non-monogamy looks like (and what it isn't)
  • How to talk to your partner(s) about ENM
  • Navigating emotional challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and fear
  • Cultural conditioning around sexuality, secrecy, and survival
  • The role of behavioral epigenetics and inherited beliefs
  • Boundaries, agreements, and repair
  • Communication skills and emotional safety
  • Sexual health and ENM self-care
  • Integrating your ENM identity into your everyday life

This workbook was created with a specific focus on the African-American community-but the tools and insights are valuable for anyone seeking a grounded, inclusive approach to exploring open love styles.

Perfect for:

  • Individuals seeking clarity about their ENM desires
  • Couples transitioning from monogamy
  • Throuples and polycules needing tools for structure and communication
  • Anyone who wants to explore non-monogamy through a culturally informed, emotionally intelligent lens

Whether you're just beginning your journey or deep in the process of redefining what love looks like for you, this workbook will help you build the skills, mindset, and confidence needed to thrive in ethical non-monogamy-on your terms.

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